The Hospital Birth Part 1
I was recently asked to tell my story of why I chose and choose to have a home-birth over a hospital birth. I know some people are skeptical as to the whys. Here are my whys and why nots. But first I just have to say this. A home-birth is not for everyone. If you have ever had a complication with a child during birth, the average midwife will tell you that she will not deliver in your home. She will be more willing to deliver in a birthing center or a hospital.
So here is our hospital story.
We have 3 children – 2 boys and little girl. Our oldest was born in the hospital. We thought about a home delivery with him but we had 100% insurance coverage because of the job I was working at. Our insurance was awesome we literally didn’t pay a cent for our hospital birth. Because of this we took advantage of all that money we spent every month. We arrived at the hospital about 1 o’clock and I was told by my doctor that he was going to go ahead and break my water. I needed to get on some antibiotics since I had strepB. Yeah!!! “sorry a little sarcastic.” So there I was laying down and I started to have contractions. I got up a few times and walked around sat a little bit at a table on an exercise ball to fill out some paperwork. But pretty soon the contractions picked up a lot! When I think back I wish I knew what I do now about birth. I wouldn’t have laid back down!!!
My contractions got worse and worse as they often do…. I couldn’t take it. The pain was unbearable but I refused to do an epidural… I had heard way to many things about epidurals and none of them were good. I decided to take a drug that would take the edge off. I still felt my contractions but they didn’t hurt as bad. I will tell you this, that drug made me feel a bit on the drunk side. At least that is what the doctor told me it would feel like, since I had never been drunk in my life I wasn’t sure what to expect. I guess I was also quite hilarious. The nurses, the doctor, my sister in-law and my hubby were laughing quite a bit I heard.
Isn’t he adorable?
Well the time had come. It took 40 minutes of pushing and my baby boy was born. Afterwards I was wheeled into my room where I got to snuggle with my newborn baby boy. By this time it was 9 at night I was exhausted. But my baby was WIDE AWAKE. We couldn’t quite figure out the whole breast-feeding thing and between the two of us we were both frustrated. But come 4am we both finally passed out! Needless to say those next 2 hours went by way too fast. Doctors and nurses came a flooding in between 6am and 12pm. No sleep for this tired mama…. I could have cared less about my blood needing to be drawn or eating breakfast or taking my vitamins. I JUST WANTED SLEEP! However I wasn’t going to be rude and not let my friends and family come and see the baby and I. I toughed it out. The next several days went by in a flurry. I was so glad when I got to go home.
My likes and dislikes of the hospital
- Beds were comfy
- Nurses were nice for the most part “Except for the ones that decided to talk about 4-H and their cattle in the middle of my pushing”
- The food wasn’t bad
- The whirlpool bathtub was great
- My doctor was great
So yeah that is about all I can think of that I liked about the hospital
- The nurses who couldn’t stop talking about 4-H and it took my husband to say something
- The contractions were really really strong – I found out later that they were stronger than normal since the doctor broke my water versus it breaking on it’s own.
- It didn’t matter what my birth plan was. I was still asked every so often if I wanted pain meds. “You would think they get paid more if the patient takes them”
- The fact that someone didn’t really show me how to breast feed
- I was woken up at 6am for blood work and everything else
- I almost didn’t get to eat supper at one point because I almost ordered food way to late – “I had a 5 minute window left to order”
- I was made to watch videos about Shaking baby syndrome and SIDS. Not that big of deal for someone who hadn’t seen them before. But I had just got done watching them 2 weeks earlier.
- Some of the nurses were rude about the videos – Ok that’s being nice. They were all rude about the videos. I finally just left them on just to make them happy.
- I really wasn’t comfortable. The hospital gowns really are not that conservative in the ways of apparel.
- I didn’t feel like I could relax.
- I was always worried that someone might walk in on me while I was dressing, going to the bathroom and so on.
- If it hadn’t been for our insurance we would have had to pay $10,000 just to have a baby in the hospital – Those fees also included all “baby well visits” as well. Not to mention the cost to have a premium insurance plan – a little over $480 a month Which came out to about $4,320
I was so glad to get home. Now not everyone’s experience is going to be like mine. Some of you may have had a great experience and some of you may have had it worse than mine. It will have to be something that you will need to weigh the pros and cons of before you decided to have a hospital birth, home birth or to have the baby in a birthing center.
What was your experience? Did you like the hospital or did you chose to have a home-birth? I would love to hear your feedback 🙂